I used earlier Siemens Solid Edge it had a some kind of a steering wheel to "synchronizingly" design parts or so...
Now does NX 9 have same kind of synchronizise design ?
You are in the correct command, but at the moment your dialog shows you have your motion set to "Distance" which assumes you will supply a vector and value.
If you want the OrientXpress tool to come up you need to change your motion type to DYNAMIC
You will then see the handles that you are looking for.