Yea it's frustrating when you do that!
Do you use the snapshot functionality? I find it's very useful for capturing a particular state that I can go back to if I mess it up (among other 'proper' uses )
my personal solution for that is, that I have defined short Cut keys for this.
Alt+N = Show Only
Alt+A = Hide Selected
Alt+E = Show Selected
This keys come from the Germantranslations for Hide, Show, Show Only
This for me is the fasted way to see want I want to see.
There are a few functions that are too close for comfort on those menus. Recent example: RMB on a draft view and right below "update" is " convert to 2D". Fortunately there's a confirmation request. It would be great if you could customize the drop downs.